How are you? The most frequently asked question when I started to interact with friends no matter on real conservation or social media. It has became a habit to ask such question unconsciously even though I know the response would be the same: I’m fine. That’s great as I am happy to know that they are having a good time. However, I’ve been wondering are there alternative ways to start my conversation pleasantly? Some websites offer ideas on why should or should not we ask this question when we want to start speaking with someone.
After googling on “how to get a good conservation starter”, I couldn’t find a better way to express my sincere perfectly instead of using “How are you?” or “How do you do?” if I am going to contact a new friend or someone I knew them before. Some suggested: “What are you doing these days?” (I’ve received this kind of starter too and I was confused, did he ask me what am I really doing recently? How to explain if I’m multitasking as many people do?)
However, there are a bunch of informal ways to start a conversation that sounds familiar to me:
- Hey, long time no see!
- It was great to hear from you again.
- How’s it going?
- What’s up?
For Chinese Malaysians, we usually ask: “Have you eaten?” and this doesn’t really mean that we are asking you to join us for a meal, it might be just a starter for a conversation…